Feeling lonely? Being lonely is a normal.** It can happen to anyone regardless of their relationship status, how many friends you have or how social you are. It is nothing to be ashamed of.
Loneliness is an opportunity for same amazing self-care and self-love. It is a time when self-discovery and embracing all aspects of yourself can come about. Loneliness is a time to get comfortable with every part of yourself.
It can feel daunting, or sound dreadful to think about spending more time with yourself, but, something amazing can happen when you do. When you really sit with yourself being alone can become easier. You start to get to know all of you, loving all of you, then you realize just how amazing you are. You will discover how much you want to do, and you will start doing it.
This time alone is an opportunity to explore what you do alone. Figure out what hobbies you enjoy, what goals you want to have. Enjoy exercising, reading books, and pampering yourself. This is an opportunity to what you are passionate about. If you don’t know what that is, then this is a great time to figure it out.
Develop a loving relationship with yourself and loneliness doesn’t have to be unbearable. It idoes’t have to be suffering. It can just be you hanging out with your amazing self.
Now, nothing can replace company. Relationships with friends, family, partners, and animals are so important. When you are struggling to find those relationships or nurture them follow these 5 ideas.
Skype With Your People
It can be nice to just see a friendly face and talk. Reach out to a friend or family member for a Skype date or a small chat.
Reach out to 5 different people for a coffee date. It can seem like a lot but, getting some people on your schedule over the next few weeks will help with future loneliness. Coffee dates don’t have to be with people you know well, they can be acquaintances. It is a great opportunity to get to know someone better.
Be Around People
Sometimes we just need to be around people to alleviate some of the loneliness. Go to a busy coffee shop, book store, music shop or anywhere else were people congregate. It can be nice to be around people and you might end up talking to some as well.
Try Something New
For those who lack a base of friends to reach out to, it is time to go find them! New friends can be found in so many different places. Try a class, any will do. It could be a drum class, yoga class, or language class. It may take a few classes, but you will meet people and build relationships.
Join a book club or do community service. Put yourself in the midst of other people. You will be forced to talk, and build new relationships.
Now it can be scary to go out into the world to make new friends, but when you are in a place of loving yourself, and learning all about yourself, it is easier.
Loneliness doesn’t last forever. You can have relationships that are meaningful and maintain relationships that fill your heart’s needs. If you are lonely and need someone to talk to, reach out. Or can can just send me a message just because. I am here for you.
**If your loneliness does last a long time or you also are experiencing depression, please seek outside help. Go to the doctor and tell them how you feeling. You are not alone.