excitement, adrenaline, and motivation
When ever I start a new project or goal I start off with so much excitement, motivation and energy. Then after maybe one week or 24 hours all of it is gone. I wonder why I was so excited in the first place. Whatever new thing I had thought was going to be fun turns into a very challenging and draining experience.
Have you felt it to after starting a new project? Its that slight let down that you aren't as talented and gifted as you were picturing in your mind. Don't worry, you are not the only one. I almost did when I started this blog. I have been thinking and outlining blog posts for weeks. I have been thinking about this blog for months. So I have had plenty of time to picture how it would happen. Except I did not factor in the whole technology side of building my own website.
I just started and almost gave up because I couldn't remember how to edit a synopsis block below the catch phrase of the website. Please go look at it and read it. It was almost the cause of my failure. But, to put this in better perspective, I had been editing the website for about 45 minutes, when I edited the synopsis block. When I was rereading it about 15 minutes later, I realized I needed to edit it. But couldn't recall how to change it. Frustration begins to set in. I try to remember. I can't remember. I'm now irritated. So I scroll and look and click and keep looking. Thinking this couldn't be as difficult as I was making it because I had just done it.
Isn't it funny that I had been using Squarespaces video support, as well, to learn how to edit my blog, but in that moment asking for help seemed like the biggest taboo. I wanted to do it. And I wanted to do it now. And if I can't do it now than maybe I am not cut out for this blogging thing (Yes, dramatic. It happens to us all - maybe not as dramatically.). So instead of just completely giving up, I went and started this blog post.
I have discovered some ways to overcome the small failures and bumps in the road to completing a goal. Like this blogging experience (cough cough that just happened).
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conserve that motivation and energy... you are gonna need it later.
One thing I have realized is that when I slowly release the excitement over weeks and even months something happens. I have it for longer. I don't get any burn out. And I actually am better able to stick with a project even when it is challenging. The slow release does two things. One you are using that energy over a longer period of time, so that you can hopefully start actually replenishing that energy with some progress on the goal or project.
Secondly, you are probably using a new muscle or different muscle that needs to be exercisized over time and built up. When you go gong hoe and don't give yourself time to recover from the use of that muscle you get tired and burnt out. How many of us have said I am going to start working out... then start... but then stop. Well, if you just dove in and started working out 2 hours a day, then on day 3 it is reasonable to presume that you are dead tired. You are wondering who actually puts themselves through this type of torture. No one! You don't just dive in like that. Dip a toe in, test the water. Then slowly start to add more time to your goal.
- Set a certain amount of time you will work on the goal on a regular basis. After some consistent work increase the amount of time that you are spending working on the goal.
- Limit how often you work on the goal.
- Set a certain amount of time to accomplish a task for your goal.
don't get discouraged. do what you know you can do.
When you start something new like running, a business, or learning how cook it can feel like you need to research and understand EVERYTHING before you actually take a step forward. So, I may or may not have been researching about marketing and all things website related for the past couple of days, allowing all the knowledge to completely overwhelm me. Crawling into bed and making no progress on any part of my goal did happen, BUT I researched! Which actually does nothing because if I didn't just learn, even when I learn how to type a synopsis up in a certain part of my blog, I forget that information 15 minutes later. SO research is probably a big fat waste of time, unless you are actually acting off it.
For example, I researched the difference between Wordpress and Squarespace. Then I chose Squarespace based on my findings and my needs. So that research actually served me. But what I find best is the doing. Doing makes you focus one thing and, hopefully, not on everything you don't know or need to do. I started typing up a blog post because I thought it would be more productive than trying to build the website and getting stuck. And it actually helped remind me of why I wanted to do a blog, to share my experiences and help others reach their goals.
So technology, you will not win today. BOOM!
- Make a list of actionable to dos and a list of research, or busy work to dos.When creativity is low or your brain is mush, choose a task from the busy work or research to dos.
- When taking steps always think about how this action will get you closer to your goal, so that you are not wasting time on non essential tasks, that can suck your motivation and energy.
ask for help. seriously. right now.
I think we somehow get so caught up in the fact that we are supposed to master something after a short period of time that we forget to ask for help. I literally was using tools to help me and then when I had a question refused to use the tools that I had just been using. This is such a classic mistake I have made... a lot. And apparently continue to do so. I have had coaches and mentors who tell me to ask questions, but when I am stuck and don't know what to do, giving up seems like a legitimate alternative rather than asking for help. But remember you are not alone. If you are having this problem people have had it before you.
Seek out a tribe to support you in your new endeavor. They will be able to answer questions and you can offer your knowledge up as well. Also, Google is awesome. I should try using it.
- Google your questions.
- Find forums and groups that you can join and create a community for your new goal. Make friends and ask questions.
take a damn break! now!
Whenever we come upon a tough problem that we cannot solve and it is beginning to feel like maybe we weren't cut out for this... what ever this is, it is time to take a break. I learned this when I started to learn programming, I could only work on programming for 20 minutes at a time or I would become so defeated and confused that I would want to quit for good.
A break gives perspective. Take one.
- Include break time when planning one working on your project.
- Don't sit for over an hour without standing, stretching, and walking around.
- Make sure you are staying hydrated and eating to fuel your creativity and brain.
Starting new projects and goals is exciting and challenging. Taking the first steps to complete and finish them can energizing. We will use our excitement to fuel us for the exciting journey. But, we will make sure we maintain momentum to the finish line.
What projects or goals are you excited to start?
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