Look we have all been there. One bad thing after another keeps happening. First you break up with your significant other, so your girlfriends take you out for drinks. You stay out too late and get to work late the next morning. You loose your job and think you may have to move back home, to a small town in Arkansas (nothing wrong with Arkansas, by the way).
The bad things just keep happening and mix in the heart ache of your newly ended relationship and wow, you think to yourself this all started when you made that comment to your, now, ex. Now, look at where you are. You feel horrible, like the universe is just taking everything out on you!
Trust me when I say I have been there! Boy, and there are times that I have been there so frequently that people have made comments like “doesn’t this happen to you a lot.” Yes, my friend, it does. I have been unemployed, with zero prospects, and my side hustle some how doing worse than anytime before. I need money to complete a licensing and have none. I have felt overwhelmed with all the bad that just kept happening.
How I ended up in those awful conditions is for another post, but know that you can stop that endless “ everything awful happening” cycle.
Right now, I want to help you understand how to pull your head out of the tornado of bad and help you experience some peace. I know you could make a long list of everything bad going on and why you have every right to want to bury your head in the sand. Look, bad things happen. I can’t tell you that what you are going through will end in a day or just smile and it will be better.
But, I can tell you that the overwhelm that you experience you can change. The fact that you only see bad, or negative everywhere you look in your life can change, without your circumstances changing. Yes, I’m mindset shift. Here are steps to pull yourself out of the funk and move forward.
1. It is time to stop the negative thinking.
When you feel overwhelmed by the negative and you feel that you have brought it on yourself, you will probably only find more awful things in your life that you can blame your self for. So, you have to stop.
Stop thinking all the bad things. Seriously, you are only adding the overwhelming burden you feel. You focus on the negative and I am sure you will see more negative. Start finding positives in your life to focus on and you will see more positives.
2. Find the Positives To Focus On
No, I don’t know everything that is on your plate or what will happen if you drop the ball. But, I guarantee you that there are positives. For one, you are looking for answers and help, since you are reading this. That is a really good thing! You want change and are looking in the right place!
Somethings that we forget we have and often take for granted are our health, our mind’s capabilities, our own ambition and drive, and our tender hearts. You may be experiencing trials that leave you hungry and worried about rent money. I have been there. But, I worked through those situations because I realized I am healthy enough to do so. I have drive and a mind that will help me accomplish whatever I want.
Your tender heart allows you to experience all that life has to offer. Laughing till your stomach hurts, crying till your eyes are raw, anger that make you loose your wits, and forgiveness that heals the most tender of wounds.
Life isn’t about the stuff. It is about the mind, body, and heart’s experiences. When you focus on those things you can put into perspective the experience of life you have had and the experiences you will have.
3. Take Action On Those Good Thoughts
Lastly, focus on the good thoughts you cultivate and take action on those. If you are saying I am going to find a job that I love, you will start networking with the people who inspire you. If your positive thought is I am going eat delicious healthy food tonight. Invite a friend over, Pinterest some recipes and have a cooking frenzy.
Take action to prove those positive thoughts right and continue to prove them right. It is easy to stop and say its hard or taking to long. You are driven and strong willed, you can do it.
Overwhelm in the midst of a lot of negative situations and experiences can be difficult to overcome. Our minds are our most precious weapons in combat. Remember that overwhelm is a state mind. You capable of great things, like overcoming your overwhelm.
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